I don’t know much about hypnosis, but I
guess it can’t hurt.
But if you want some practical suggestions
from here, here’s a few pointers:
First of all, don’t be eager to please.
Don’t always try to be liked by others.
Don’t apologize when it isn’t necessary (as in, kamu ngga salah). If you smile
a lot just so you seem like a nice person, well.. smile less. Don’t be afraid
to have an opinion that is different from others, and when necessary.. say it.
And look people in the eye when doing so. If you feel like someone is bullying
you, don’t LET them. It doesn’t take much to establish your standing, and
bullies will back down in no time. You can be firm without being impolite about
Stand up straight, shoulders back, chin
high. I read somewhere that konon doing the Superhero Pose (standing like
Superman with fists on waist) for 2 minutes in the morning boosts confidence
and testosterone levels. Your body language and posture will change how people
perceive you, and how you perceive yourself. Don’t fidget or move
unnecessarily. When you stand, center your weight.. do not shift from foot to
foot. When you sit down, occupy your space. Own your territory. Lean back, spread
I know big muscular guys at the gym who, pas ngomong, sound like someone who could easily be bullied. And I know skinny short guys who you don’t want to mess with. If you work with models, itu kentara sekali sih.. someone can be drop dead gorgeous on camera, but a 2 minute conversation and you can just sense how low her self-esteem is.
Does this come naturally? No.. it takes
self-awareness and constant training. Trust me, I know this from personal
experience.. that I wish someone taught me much earlier in life.
But remember this… the hard part isn’t
gaining confidence. The hard part is that delicate balance between being a
self-assured confident person, and being a kepedean douchebag. Once you achieve
some measure of confidence, that will be the thin line you will be constantly
Good luck to you. 🙂