Kalau urusan nyambung dan enak ngobrol sih
mendingan cari di Twitter atau ask.fm. You can read the person’s thoughts that
go back years, with no audience in particular. On dating sites like OkCupid,
all you know is what that person wrote on a template profile with the singular
purpose of looking and sounding good.
“Ya kan di Twitter dan ask.fm kan banyak yang pencitraan juga…”
Well, if you can’t “read” people well enough from how they write over years… then I suggest you stick to minta dikenalin oleh temen dan saudara.
Well, like I’ve always said:
“Masalahnya gw tuh orangnya ngga bisa
sendiri…” is the root of all bad life-choices.
Tidak menikah dan tidak punya anak bukan berarti sudah pasti doomed to age alone. We still have our family, friends (virtual and real), and dates (ini sebaiknya “real” only). No preparation necessary, other than having a wide range of friends.
And as friends start to taper off as we age
(we lose them to their own families etc), it’s best to have more than a few
spares. The same goes for dates/boyfriends/girlfriends: don’t put all your eggs
in the same basket, and always have several options available. They come and
go; so make peace with that.
Hello. I’m gonna consider those two
separate questions that have no relevance to one another because… well, they
just don’t. 🙂 And you really shouldn’t confuse the two.
First question: I’m not alone. I have my friends, family, and pets. I go out on dates. And when they are not around, I keep myself occupied with movies, the internet, reading, cooking, and work. Perhaps you asked me that because I never seem to have a girlfriend? Well, guess what… if you don’t feel complete without a relationship, you’ll never feel complete with one.
Second question: No. If I’m afraid of ever
talking about whatever problem I have, it’s out of fear of looking weak. It’s
out of fear of not being understood.
In my opinion, lonely people are people who
put all their eggs in one basket.
As much as I enjoy the company of others, I
can also lose myself in things such as books, movies, and cycling. It’s
perfectly normal to feel lonely. But the idea of having your entire world
revolve around the existence of other people is… not recommended.
One of the most saddest things I’ve ever
witnessed are people who are so fearful of loneliness, they’ll take whatever
(and whoever) comes their way… whether it is right for them or not; whether
it makes them happy or not. We all know people like this. They are driven by
fear, not by preference.
Find a way to be happy with yourself, and
you’ll be better at handling those moments alone.
Suka: You can walk around eating a spoonful of peanutbutter. Without pants on.
Duka: When you come home from a long day at work and open the fridge, the contents will be exactly the same as the night before. Never any pleasant surprises. Nope.