I’m going to skip your questions, as I
can’t presume to know what most men are like. Besides, I’d still like to live a
few more years, thank you very much.
So instead, I’ll go direct to your
statement “i kinda scare of marriage.” Well, put it this way.. right
now, at this moment, you think that a husband cheating is an Extinction Level
Event. But my guess is, once you’re married, you’ll consider it just one of the
“costs of doing business.”
Does it suck? Sure. But think of the
alternatives of NOT getting married: dying alone, diomongin keluarga, dianggap
ngga laku, tidak ada yg support, tidak punya anak, ngga ada yang beliin
handbag, and the soul-crushing loneliness.
So yes, it’s simply the cost of doing
business… and not the Extinction Level Event you perceive it to be now.
So you learn to live with it, and you learn
to accept it. And hey, you may do it yourself on the side. Nothing makes you
morally superior to him. A Facebook flirt here, a Tinder match there… I can
go on.
Now regarding “if i found a man who’s
secretly into open relationship”, I have a few things to say:
Why is it that those men who CLAIM to be in
a so-called “open relationship” must always be CAUGHT first, before
making the revelation? If a person is truly in a mutual and consensual
open-relationship, he would be honest about it from the very beginning. To ALL
parties involved.
Short of that, I consider the guy just
another lesser man; a douchebag making excuses.