If it’s some privileged Jaksel Orba kid who
stayed within the safe familiar PERMIAS/KBRI bubble for the entire time he/she
was there… then no difference whatsoever.
Or, if it’s some nervous Jakbar kid who
arrives and gets sucked in by the Indo church youth groups… then biasanya
jadi close-minded religious zealot.
Those two types are basically two sides of
the same coin. And you know ’em when you see ’em.
Dia kami sekolahkan disini:
Menurut saya sih ini sekolah yang *sesuai* dengan
harapan saya untuk anak. Soal “bagus” or not, itu sangat relatif.
That really depends on what type of person you aspire your child to be. Sekolah
ini tetap mengajarkan agama, tapi juga memahami that some kids prefer to use
reason and logic over dogma. To be a minority in a country like this, that is
something I am grateful enough for.
But from what I know, this school isn’t for *any* parent. Karena memang sangat melibatkan orangtua dalam mendidik anak (which doesn’t work for the “ya itu kan tugas sekolah untuk mendidik!” type of parents), dan pendekatan yang, well.. might seem a bit too Ubud/”Semesta”/Anak Alam for some people. So yes, urusan cocok2an.
Example: the kids have a morning yoga session, which of course involves the “salam matahari” pose. One of the (tampang stress) GBU parents got *very* upset and pulled their kid out of school the next day. My first thought was “man, that’s how fragile your faith is.”
Oh, emang ada ya hubungan antara
“kuliah” dan “pintar”?
Honestly, I never noticed it.
Menurut saya sih ngga salah ya. Lagian kamu
sudah coba setahun, dan sudah jelas2 tidak cocok. Trust me, time and time again
I’ve seen how a degree ngga nambah APAPUN to a person’s outlook and personal
qualities. And that’s after 3 years of dad’s money and 1 year of “iya lagi
bikin skripsi tapi maleess…” (that’s when they use the “ngejar2
You think SOME of your friends kuliah
karena they have a burning desire to learn? Because they LOVE hukum or hubungan
internasional? Nope. It’s like marriage. “I’m doing this WITHOUT QUESTION
because it’s what everyone else does, and it is what is expected of me. Lagian,
nanti apa kata saudara dan tetangga kalau ngga…”
Tapi ya gimanapun juga sebaiknya kamu punya
direction. Know what you want to achieve in life, know what you want to do. If
it doesn’t require a degree (some professions do, mind you), then just work.
With enough focus and dedication, I guarantee that by the end of 4 years you’ll
be way beyond those yang baru beres kuliah.
Just remember this… all those people who
doubt you? Who think you’ll be nothing of substance karena ngga kuliah ekonomi
or akuntansi (who probably don’t give a damn about jurusannya sendiri anyways)?
Who think you are too dumb to earn a degree?
Prove them wrong.
Sorry ya, jawabnya pakai bahasa inggris.
I’m not dismissing or anggap remeh your
current passion. But bear in mind that you are still in highschool. You might
not see it now, but passion changes over the years. Dan seringkali kita
passionate about something simply because we don’t know much about it. Karena
kita hanya lihat dari sisi luar (the glamour, the coolness), tapi begitu sudah
mendalami… ternyata it’s not all fun and games. That’s fine.. you should
still pursue it. But I think it would be a mistake to limit your options and
focus on one thing at such early an age. Nah, terus nanti kuliahnya jurusan
apa? Apakah sesuai passion yang sekarang? Belum tentu juga your parents akan
mengijinkan. Dan gelar kamu pada akhirnya akan menentukan profesi kamu.
This is another important thing: you may
not see your parent’s business as something that is cool or interesting. It
doesn’t put wind in your sail, and it doesn’t pass the hipster coolness test.
But remember this: whatever it is, there will ALWAYS be something you can learn
from it. It will be for free, under your own terms, and it will always be
applicable to your passion.. whatever it may be in the future. If you choose to
pursue it. So I suggest you give it a try. Run the business for a few years and
learn as much as you can from it. If you still have desire to do something
else, then do what you have to do. But never dismiss anything as “ah, I
have nothing to learn here.” Sorry, only dumb people say that.
And PLEASE tell me your passion is not
fashion… because that’s just so cliche. If I was your dad, I’d dismiss it
Because I always felt that school got in my
way of getting a good education.
If it was important to me, I would have
made the effort to get one. But alas, it isn’t.
On a personal level, I really couldn’t care
less what a person’s education is. I don’t flaunt the fact that I am
uneducated.. but sometimes I see how people ask me questions here (ngetik
acak2an, grammar seenaknya, punctuation alay), and I think to myself “your
parents spent money on 3 years of your kuliah, and THAT’S the result?” So
no, I can’t judge people on their degree.
On a professional level, as an employer who
has to go through a hundred curriculum vitaes, it’s important. A degree shows a
certain amount of dedication to a subject, and will get a foot in the door for
an interview. But that CV is like a Tinder pic: Sure we may match, but if the
best you can type is “km dmn,,, lg ap”, you ain’t gonna get very far.
Go. Don’t think twice. Just go.
Itu kesempatan yang sangat berharga.
Kalaupun kamu tidak tahu mau kuliah apa, ya tidak ada bedanya dengan disini
kan? Might as well go there and figure it out. And kerja part time itu sangat
wajar disana (disini aja yang ngga sih), the money is pretty good, and it’s
actually pretty fun. In highschool I did everything from mowing grass in the
neighbourhood, to clearing tables and washing dishes at restaurants.
Tapi sebaiknya check dulu… apakah boleh
bekerja dengan student visa? Kadang ada negara yang tidak memperbolehkan, dan
itu menentukan beban finansial ke orangtua kamu. Mungkin masih bisa bekerja
part-time, tapi tidak bisa pekerjaan formal.
If you feel insecure karena ngga pinter2
banget… well, guess what: students di luar negeri juga ngga pinter2 amat kok.
Trust me. 🙂
So yeah. Go. There is no bad side to that
decision. You’ll end up with more life skills than you’ll ever have if you just
stayed here. And no, I am not referring to what you’ll learn in class.
Soal bisa sukses atau tidak, saya tidak
berani menjawab. Karena meskipun saya jawab “tidak bisa”, there will
always be someone who’ll say “aadaaaa kok…”.
Kalau kamu bertanya mengenai diri sendiri,
tebakan saya adalah kamu memang belum punya arah. Dan sekarang kamu selesai SMU
dan harus kuliah, dan sembarang memilih yang (mungkin) menurut kamu paling
mudah, dan/atau merasa “gampang kerja”.
Bukan salah kamu sih, kalau belum tahu
arahnya kemana. Tapi baiknya ya temukan dulu. Jangan invest 3-4 tahun untuk
pendidikan yang kamu pedulipun tidak. Take a year off and figure out what to
do. Research, magang, kursus. Terus terang, saya yakin rata2 mahasiswa are
clueless mengenai jurusan yang mereka pilih. Tapi karena takut sekali dengan
status “pengangguran” sehabis SMU, jadi apapun diambil.
Don’t waste your time and parent’s money by
sembarang kuliah demi status. Soal sukses or not is irrelevant anyways.
Terus terang saya mengerti sih kalau rata2
orangtua itu skeptis kalau anaknya mau belajar fashion design. Why? The same
reason YOU would be skeptical if, say, your brother said “aku mau jadi
rock/movie star”. Like any profession that seems cool or glamorous, it
attracts it’s share of flakey airheads who only only see that side of the
Look, every profession has it’s share of
difficulties. And yes, we are ALL tired of hearing people go drama queen seakan-akan
pekerjaannya itu paling sechallenging sedunia. That’s like fashion models who
say (cue to nyinyir voice) “It’s more than just looking pretty, it’s also
long hours and getting yelled at by photographers…”
My point is this: it’s not up to our parents
to understand how much you love what you do. It’s up to YOU to prove it to
them. And yes, also that you love it enough that you’ll roll with all the
unpleasant parts of the business, and not only that… but you can make it into
something you can LIVE off one day.
But here’s a tip: if you think you should
be a designer *sekedar* karena suka baca Vogue dan fashion blogs, suka gambar2
baju sambil duduk di Starbucks, suka selfie2 di kamar ganti H&M, suka
diminta saran berbusana dari teman2, suka kipas2 ala Karl Lagerfeld, atau bisa
menerangkan latar belakang nama Proenza Schoeler… sorry, I don’t think you
should pursue it as a profession. Keep it as a hobby. There is nothing wrong
with that. It’s like.. I know I love food, and I ain’t bad in the kitchen…
but I wouldn’t assume I can be the next Ferran Adria. Hell, I wouldn’t even
assume I could cook at Solaria.
And if I were you, I’d be VERY grateful
your parents even let you take DKV. Not many parents give their kids even that.
Worry not… if one day you still think fashion is worth pursuing, you WILL.
Regardless of what you are studying now. It will not go to waste.