You can challenge yourself and leave the comfort zone doing things yang sesuai minat kamu (sorry, I don’t like the word “bakat”).
This is how I see it: decide what you would do for free. And keep doing that particular thing beyond your own personal comfort level.
So by all means.. challenge yourself, but within your “own thing.” Why challenge yourself doing something that doesn’t interest you? There is nothing “mulia” or honorable about that, whatever it is.
I hope that made sense.
First question: Why do men tease and mock
when together? Because guys don’t say “bestie! my BFF! brother!” to
eachother faces, but dibelakang mock and talk bad about eachother. You know,
unlike.. *sinyal ilang*
Second question: I don’t know what you mean
by “act like a bunch of apes”, but yes.. I’m sure there’s a lot of
guys who regress into uncultured “Lesser Men” neanderthals when a
pretty girl is present. In a way, it’s a form of “kampungan”.. if you
haven’t been around a lot of pretty girls, your behaviour reflects it.
Real men, on the other hand, just keep
their cool and behave normally. Paling mata aja yang alert buddies that someone
someone cute is within range.
The same reason cewek cenderung lebih suka cowok dengan rambut lebat dibandingkan yang botak.
Does that answer your question?
Different strokes for different folks,
buddy. It’s just not my cuppa tea.
Personally, I avoid limelight like vampires
Besides, sunlight makes me go all sparkly
Wishing for a form of closure is
My issue is with those who feel ENTITLED to
closure, and frickin’ demand it.
And y’know what’s messed up about it? Those who feel entitled, are often the ones who are least deserving.
So I stand by what I say.
Free sex? Yup, and I make no apologies for
it. What else is new?
Consume booze? Well, paling sampe tipsy
dikit. I’m actually much friendlier with a few drinks under my belt.
Use drugs? Only the soft kind; twice a year
Depression? Not anymore; I kicked it years
Ganteng juga ngga? Ugliness is in the eye
of the beholder .
Sarcastic? Yes, I use it as a defense
My aura is incredible? No, you just have
Then go find someone who makes kamu2 feel
important, precious, and irreplaceable.
There really is not shortage of (lesser) men who do that.
It ain’t rocket science.
I wish I knew what to say. Men who cat-call
or harass women make my blood boil, too. But I remember my housemate told me
one trick she does:
When walking buy a group of men, sebelum
mereka sempat komentar, dia sudah “punten” (this is Bandung, after
all) duluan. It usually shuts them up, or actually make them respond politely.
And say it normally, politely.. without being defensive. Yes, I’m sure I’ll get
called out for this, but I’m just saying what works for her.
I lean more towards “Money can’t buy
everything, but it can make some women say “tp kalo udh kenal, sebenernya
orangnya baek koq.”
When sex happens between a man and a woman, NEVER assume it happened because the man jungkir-balik/sepik/modus/moved mountains to make it happen.