Being “nice” comes from a position of weakness. I comes from the desire to please and be accepted by others. Those guys *deserve* to finish last. And when people don’t recognize how “nice” they are, they get upset and bitchy about it.. because they are motivated by the approval of others.
So instead of being “nice guy”, strive to be a “good guy.”
What’s the difference? Good guys derive character from a position of strength. They might not always be liked or admired (and neither do they give a flying fuck), but they have a firm belief in what is right.. regardless what others think.
Often times when a man dies, however vile and despicable he lived his life, at the very least someone will say “he was a good father”. And he probably was. Being a father is almost like the lowest common denominator of being a male and a human being. And we’ve watched enough movies where one’s reason for living is to his child one more time, seeking redemption for whatever mistakes he has done in the past. We see this theme in movies ranging from The Rock to Star Wars.
Unfortunately life often does not imitate
art. Time and time again, I’ve seen men who walked out on their child for
whatever reason. Whatever earthly duniawi pleasures I may berkubang menggelora
in while I’m out of town, I always find my way home to be with my kid. Come
hell or high water, I will ALWAYS find my way home. So how do some men walk
away from their own flesh and blood -their own genetic copy, if I may add- is
beyond my comprehension. I normally avoid bringing up my personal life here,
but it had to be stated.
I wish I could answer your question. I’m
sorry, but I simply can’t. And I’m sorry you grew up without him. Family is
what you make it, however you personally define it. And he didn’t reject you,
and you shouldn’t feel that way. What he did was abandon his family, and by
doing so, he abandoned his own manhood.
Always ask a person potentially awkward
questions via text instead of calling. That way they have time to think of an
Never corner a person by asking “Are
you busy saturday night?” Of course they might not be busy.. but it
doesn’t mean they want to see you. Instead say “If you’re not busy
saturday night, want to meet up for coffee?” Again, give them an easy way
to think up an excuse.
If you ask a person to meet and they give
you an excuse (real or not is irrelevant), never EVER suggest some other time
to meet. The ball is already in their court, so it’s up to them to suggest..
You gotta have dignity, mate. And one way
of maintaining dignity is by knowing when to walk away. That’s not
“pride”, that’s just manners and common sense.