People always question why I even bother
Too old for it, lah.. cemen, lah… for
scoring women, lah.. “nulis tuh utk Magdalene Rappler Medium kek”
The way I see it, I simply have something to say. I think I have a few viewpoints to offer that are rarely -if ever- represented by anyone else. And like most people who write, it’s just something I want *out there*.
And what’s the point of writing for people who already agree with your viewpoints already? That’s just plain masturbatory, and it’s nothing but preaching to your own choir.
Sure, writing in ask.fm ain’t exactly like doing the editorial page of The Economist, but I’d like to think that I contribute something tangible. If anything, just so people can see different ways of viewing issues we encounter in life. And as cemen as these matters may be, I had to deal with them at one point in my life. And if someone gave me better tools at the time, I’d be grateful for it.
So yeah, thank you.
To know I’m of use; to know that I’ve made you see things differently, makes it worth it.
Not much can be done when she starts
pulling the victim card. The best you can do is practice “early
detection.” It’s not easy, but over time and with more experience, you’ll
be able to sniff them out. And please don’t ask me what the signs are. 🙂
The best you can do is protect yourself.
First of all, archive all chats, and screencap key conversations. Email to
yourself the transcripts and screencaps, using her name as the subject (for
And IF push comes to shove, make sure she knows you kept meticulous records of what she said and what was *mutually* agreed upon. And because you have nothing to hide, you have no qualms about posting it online IF she goes nutjob ballistic.
Will she find some other Loophole To Justify Her Baseless Rage (or “Celah Amarah” in Indonesian)? Oh yes. They always do. But it’s always good to have those transcripts and screencaps in your back pocket.
Hari gini masih “He Said She Said”? Capek deeeh… let the digital paper trail speak for itself.
I appreciate your question and the way you
asked it, but sorry… I must decline.
Yes, I refrain from sharing my achievements,
but I also try not to go into kultwits about my setbacks, sob-stories, or
kisah-hidup either. I just find that sok-ngajarin dengan dalih “sekedar
berbagi” thing to be very self-serving and masturbatory. I would never
assume that I have a kisah-bijak that would be of any hikmah for anyone else.